There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most significant sign is fear of your partner and a partner who belittles or tries to control you.
The more of these you answer yes to, the more likely you are in an abusive relationship.
* Feel like you have to “walk on eggshells” to keep him from getting angry?
* Feel frightened by his temper?
* Feel like you can’t live without him?
* Stop seeing friends or family or stop favorite activities because he doesn’t like them?
* Think there is something wrong with you if you don’t enjoy the sexual things he makes you to do?
* Feel that you are the only one who can help him?
* Keep quiet about your worries and / or fears about the relationship because you fear his reaction?
* Go along with things because you don’t want to hurt his feelings?
* Put up with things because you think no one will ever love you as much as him?
* Stay because he will kill himself if you leave?
* Make excuses and apologize to others for your partner’s behavior when he treats you badly?
* Stop expressing your thoughts and feelings if they are different than his?
* Believe that his jealousy is a sign of love?
* Feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
* Avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
* Feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
* Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
* Wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
* Feel numb and helpless?
* Humiliate, criticize or yell at you?
* Treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for others to see?
* Ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
* Blame you for his behaviour?
* See you as property or as a sex object instead of a person?
* Act overly jealous and possessive?
* Control where you go and what you do?
* Keep you from seeing your friends and family?
* Limit your access to money, phone, the car?
* Constantly check up on you?
* Have a bad or unpredictable temper?
* Hurt you or threaten to hurt or kill you?
* Threaten to take your children away or harm them?
* Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
* Force you to have sex?
* Destroy your belongings?
Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to physical violence and even murder. No one deserves this kind of pain. The first step to breaking free is to recognize that the relationship you are in is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive relationship, then you can get the help you need.