Bullying – definitions and warning signs

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Today is pink shirt day also known as anti-bullying day.  We ask you to consider wearing a pink shirt to to show your support and take a stance that you won’t tolerate bullying anywhere, anytime. The folks behind this campaign are two high school boys from Nova Scotia!  Here is a snippet of the Globe & Mail article that inspired this day:

 

David Shepherd and Travis Price

“David Shepherd, Travis Price and their teenage friends organized a high-school protest to wear pink in sympathy with a Grade 9 boy who was being bullied [for wearing a pink shirt]…[They] took a stand against bullying when they protested against the harassment of a new Grade 9 student by distributing pink T-shirts to all the boys in their school.

‘I learned that two people can come up with an idea, run with it, and it can do wonders,’ says Mr. Price, 17, who organized the pink protest. ‘Finally, someone stood up for a weaker kid.’

So Mr. Shepherd and some other headed off to a discount store and bought 50 pink tank tops. They sent out message to schoolmates that night, and the next morning they hauled the shirts to school in a plastic bag.

As they stood in the foyer handing out the shirts, the bullied boy walked in. His face spoke volumes. ‘It looked like a huge weight was lifted off his shoulders,’ Mr. Price recalled.

The bullies were never heard from again.”

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Different Types of Bullying

Physical Bullying is when one person or a group of people are engaged in hitting, slapping, punching, kicking, pushing, shoving, pinching, scratching behaviour.  They may also try pulling your hair, tripping you, or make you do stuff you don’t want to do.

Social / Emotional Bullying is when one person or a group of people tease, call names, put down, picks on, insult, spread rumors.  They may make comments on how you look, how you dress, how you act, how you walk, how you talk; they might ignore you and try to get others to ignore you or they might spend all of their time focused on everything you do and say.  They may send nasty notes, write things about you on the bathroom wall and / or tell lies about you.

Racial Bullying (also known as hate crimes) is when one person or a group of people makes fun of you based on your skin color, accent, or where you come from.  They may make fun of your customs, your food, your clothing, your culture or anything else related to your country of origin.

Sexual Bullying (also known as sexual harassment) is when one person or a group of people touch you inappropriately.  They may touch your clothing (such as a bra or underwear), make fun of your body, stare at your body, and try to look under your clothing, make sexual comments and / or sexual suggestions.

Cyberbullying is when one person or a group of people use technology such as email, text messaging, instant messaging, chat boards, blogs and other internet sites to threaten, spread rumor, harass, hurt, or exclude an individual or a group.  This may be done through text and / or pictures.

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Regardless of the type of bullying involved, there are four common and basic elements to bullying.

  1. Hurtful actions – physically, psychologically or socially / emotionally harmful behaviour takes place.
  2. Direct or Indirect – The bully’s behaviour may be behind someone’s back or face to face.
  3. Unequal Power – The bully has more power (or it seems on the surface to the people involved) than the victim does.
  4. Repetition – The behaviour keeps happening over and over again.

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For more information, please visit http://www.stopbullying.gov/kids/facts/

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Categories: Assault, Children, Hate Crimes, Sexual assault, Stalking & Harassment, Suicide, Teenagers, Trauma, Victimization

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